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Best out of Love
Jan 24th
In the end of the day, love is a very subjective topic and it is a very personal issue which takes more than one person to work on it, to make it work. I guess, when it comes to love, we just have to make the best out of it. Make the best out of love because love knows no boundary and with love, everything’s possible.
YapThomas. 23rd January 2010
It has been a long day, time for a nice shower and sleep.
Been a while…
Jan 19th
It’s been a while since I last updated this space…
Been busy with The Office’s budget for 2010 and many other crazy things.
One of it being Project Capricorn and also meeting up friends whom I’ve not met for a very long time…
Another thing that I did this past week was to look into updating my resume. It has been a while since I last updated my resume. Why? 6 months yo! 6 months!
I’ve never even been for a proper interview. This job is my first job and the interview? It was so impromptu right at along the college corridor. Haha.
Just came back from dinner with moi mates from Taylor’s College back then, except one.
Three happy couples they are while I’m the only single one there.
To my left, SM and KK. I think they should get married already! Which I think they are planning already.
To my front, PT and MW. Both of them also. Time to tie the knot. Nads kept on asking MW when they both gonna get married and MW replied “Stop asking me this question already lah!”. Hahah… so funny.
To my right, Nads and Nigel. Well, maybe you both will get married first! 
But, hey… I’m happy to see both of you and you are much happier now as I can see. 
Me? I will send my invitation card soon! T_T
Swaying away, a friend over the weekend made a comment saying that guys who says they would want to look into their career now first rather than relationship should rethink. Something she said along the line of,
“If you can’t even take multiple responsibilities between a career and a relationship, what makes you think that you can juggle them both when you find the love of your life?“
It took a hit on me as it was exactly my intention and I last said it over last Christmas that I’m looking into a career now more than a relationship.
Guess I was just running away from the truth, as we all do. I’ve always wanted a relationship, well I’m not the kind of desperate for one but a relationship to share my life with someone whom I would love.
Maybe I didn’t take my chances or rather was not brave enough to get into one these past year. Maybe it’s just me or as many people would put it, “face problem”. Hahahaha. AND I don’t think the later is correct cause I hensem wat. :p (OMG, muka tebal gila tebal teramat tebal) T_T
Why am I talking about relationship here now? Ish… not the real purpose of this post.
So, anyways… I was saying… it has been a while since I last updated.
Been catching up with buddies and friends whom I’ve not met for some time now and it was good. I guess, I will still update regularly and I’ve got so many posts to write from events I’ve been recently invited and attended.
Chinese New Year is around the corner yet again, and plans has been made to meet up with Primary Mates. Whoa! It has been really a while since I last planned a gathering. Feels… a lot more refreshing planning things out.
I’m gonna head home now and crash… so you my friends, keep on coming for more as I’ve been outta my busy week mode. Will update more often!
Sex Fixes
Jan 10th
Ooo… it rhymes. Maybe if I could add more words, it would be nicer. But I can’t think of any other better words to add on. It’s 8 freaking am, give my brain a break.
So, how about I came to write this topic? Thanks to Grey’s Anatomy. These whole series thingy really is totally not good for kids below 18. It is definitely not for me to judge if it is good for them, kids or not. I’m just saying…
Anyways, so yeah. Sex fixes. It came to a point to get me thinking that if it really do fixes things up. Maybe it does, for those who indulge in this couple activity and were or is currently facing problems…
A friend was having a fight with her boy and came telling me all the stories bla bla bla and I ended up telling her, “Just give him a good time tonight and trust me, it will be all alright again. No matter how much you hate him, it will be all be good and you will love him more than ever.”
Whoa! Seriously, I couldn’t even think why I said that. What more it came from me. I’m innocent okay! Haha. I still blame Grey’s Anatomy.
Anyways, sex doesn’t only fixes problems, they are benefits too and there are studies done with the outcome. The benefits?
- Relieves Stress
- Boost Immunity
- Burn Calories
- Improves Cardiovascular Health
- Boosts Self-Esteem
- Improves Intimacy
- Reduces Pain
- Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
- Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
- Helps You Sleep Better
So the verdict is, sex fixes. One night stand doesn’t count so do pornography. Only if you are in a relationship or having trouble with the relationship. Don’t quote me here, I also learn from TV wan. Haha… Don’t after you go and plan couples activities and then fail, come and blame me. Play at your own risk and always use condom, unless you want to be more adventurous or eager to celebrate Father’s Day.
So, this new year… go ahead and patch things up! You happy, your partner happy. But make sure you don’t get your neighbour angry with your highness joy. Hahaha
I’ve got no problems to fix, so it’s okay. Unless you want me to fix your problem? I can promise you good time.
*Click pictures for source*
Other reads:
Sex makes people healthy, cheerful, strong, beautiful and sleepy
Bring The Pain…
Dec 21st
Pain…
You just have to ride it out.
Hope it goes away on its own.
Hope the wound that caused it, heals.There are no solutions… No easy answers.
You just breathe deep and wait for it to subside.Most of the time, pain can’t be managed.
But sometimes, the pain gets to you when you least expect it.
It’s way below the belt, and doesn’t let out.Pain…
You just have to fight it through.
Because the truth is, you can’t outrun it…
and life always makes more.Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy S02E05.
But, what’s even more pain is trying to contain that pain…
I guess, personally, without pain…
Well, pain actually hits some sense into me all the time…
I will always have to go through pain to you know… to get things right…
I always choose the path that leads to pain…
It has always been that case. For me that is.
Is it just me or I’m not alone?
Hmmm…
Maybe it’s true. I just have to fight it through…
That is why I’ve been trying to contain that pain…
Fight pain with pain just like fighting fire with fire…
Been a-w-a-y for a while…
Dec 12th
Wonders if it is seasonal or not…
I’m getting myself busy again with lots and lots of things on hand which it scares me sometimes.
I’m pushing everything by the end of 2009 as I want to start 2010 with a bang.
I want to start the year of 2010 with a new plan with things I really want to do. I can’t just procrastinate and do nothing about my life anymore.
I’m turning 25 real soon and it is no joke that I’m nowhere near where I want myself to be. Come on! I want to be somebody. Holding on true to my YapThomas’ Four Pillars of Success.
Day by day, my ambition of being hitting millionaire by 30 is coming near.
Middle this year I did a review and it doesn’t help to notice that nothing much has been done with the whole getting the priorities right on track.
Looks like my week ahead is gonna be a real busy one. The Office is gearing towards 2010 and preparation are being made to make sure we sail through 2009-2010 smoothly.
My life? It has became uncertain yet again. Things which I was real certain about came in a form of a big shattering moments which I feared in my dream. I dare not look forward to anything but hope for the best that I know is yet to come. Because, with great hopes there are bound to be great disappointments. I can’t handle or take it anymore.
But, I will not go and hide and close myself out from everything just like before. It will definitely not happen because, Hey… we all have our lessons to be learnt. We just need to grow accustom to our environment and keep on upgrading ourselves.
Heh… thanks for making this far reading my random rants, yet again. 
“It has been a great year”, I hope I’m not saying this too early…
http://www.yapthomas.com/index.php/2009/05/27/getting-it-right-priorities/
It’s A Piece of Cake…
Dec 7th
Well…
“Yes, it is a piece of cake. But if you don’t reach out and grab that piece of cake, there will be nothing left for you.”
YapThomas, 6th December 2009
Isn’t it true? You see a nice cake and there is only one piece of it left. You contemplated because you would think twice over it. Thinking if it would taste nice or would it be too creamy or cheesy or whatever…
This happens in every aspect of our life. Well, it happens to most people. The irony is that, we all knows it and we always forget and we always cry over it.
Lesson to be learnt: Be the first or be the first of nothing.
It’s an early morning people, have a nice 4-day week you Selangor people! Ish!
Dreams and Stubborn…
Dec 3rd
Do you believe in dreams? No?
Well, I do now as of a moment ago…
A while back, I had a dream. A dream that shows me a reality that I did not want to accept. I was and am so stubborn that way. What do you do when people tell you that “Hey! This house is not safe.” and you know and you’ve made your survey that this is “the” house and it is safe base on history? You buy the house right? Well at least most of you will…
Stubborn. I guess that is me. I am born stubborn. My middle name should be stubborn. Making it Thomas “Stubborn” Yap. My mom has the most headache out of my stubbornness. Well, I guess not only my mom but most people. Even The Director hates me for this fact. But I’m stubborn with a purpose. The purpose to accomplish a mission yet unknown to me.
I was stubborn enough to not accept that my mom insisted that I should go to local University instead of college. I am where I am today and I wouldn’t have gotten what I’ve gotten in college if I went to University. Maybe, there could be a better opportunity there, but who knows? God knows.
Well… today officially my dream comes true. Because I was stubborn…
Plus, I was so stubborn that a friend of mine reminded me not too long ago that it will not go well and there were plans for me to follow made to make it well. I didn’t conform to that plan, because I was stubborn yet again. This time, I was stubborn because I knew it will not be right for me to go with that plan. Because, even if it does make it right, it will still not be right. You get me?
God has his plans right? God has his own way in showing us the truth right? If I’m a believer in Him, I sure do believe that what happens in our everyday life is in his own plan. Making us believe the real truth, making us see it with our own eyes, putting the news right in front of our face as stubborn as we are, He will do it to open up our eyes. God is great.
Sigh… I always get this… Always…Why!?
Heh.. irony but I still remember what you, Nadia, said to me back then in college at Uma Curry House. Those words stays strong in me, up till now. How I wish I can say that you lay a curse on me with those words, but no. What words? It starts with “You always…” I’m sure you can remember.
It is just me being me… and how do I get rid of my middle name? Heck! My middle name doesn’t even start with “S”. Yes, I do have a middle name for those of you who never knew.
Yeah! How do I get rid of my middle name? I don’t know… God knows.
The Love Game
Nov 7th
The common and known to all, there is a “Love Game” to be played.
I once was told that, the “Love Game” must be played in order to win the hearts of the one you’ve chosen. It is like a rule of thumb in chasing the ladies.
Honestly, I now believe in none of them, the rule of the game.
Why do we all have to make it so complicated?
Why can’t we just embrace love just as it is?
Playing the rule of the game puts oneself into being such a fake!
Honestly, it is true. I did went on a mode to play the game, but I felt that I’m such a fake. If anything, I want that person to love me for who I am. Not who I was so that she would fall for me. I can’t do that. It would sooth my soul and heart but, No. I can cheat myself, not others.
I believe in playing the game of love of compliments, gifts and what not. But beyond that to the extreme of putting myself in such a fake position would just not work for me.
Gah, you find no sense in the post right? It’s okay, as long as I personally understand. I found this video on YouTube while browsing and it’s fun watching it. Watch this instead of digesting what I said above…
The Love Game is part of Young Indies Film initiative in New York, USA.
Saturday night people… What you up to?
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Squeezing the brain juice dry…
Nov 5th
I don’t know where to start. Moreover, I can’t even remember where did I last stop. But I know that I’m back from a long hiatus.
Hello people. This is me YapThomas and I’m back alive. T_T
Okay, on a serious note. I took a blue chill pill and feeling all blue I went on a stand by mode for few days. It feels like my soul left my body and now it’s back. I’m now out of the blue and feeling all dandy.
Put it that… it’s just life. What else can I say?
When life travels faster than our body, mind and soul does, all we need is just a break. It is when I will squeeze my brain juice dry with all the internal adjustments I need to make and clearing out all the black spots which dirtied my nice white sheet of cloth. Once that’s done, the vision is now clearer and it’s time to leave my brain alone and let it re-charge.
Hmmm… I can’t remember when was the last time I squeezed by brain juice.
I’m now re-adjusting my life. Putting certain priorities right in front of my eyes so that it doesn’t slide away from my vision. Taking out all the black spots whenever it appears, immediately. Not letting the white sheet of cloth to be kept dirty.
I told myself, “This could not be the worst.” The worst is yet to come, but I need to prepare for it. To challenge myself to move forward and not letting the past stopping me from moving forward.
Comments and views of others doesn’t matter. It is just me and my own personal believes matters most. Not to say what others say may not be true or to be believed. But it is just that, in our own life, we are the one who takes control of it and most of all, it is Him the Almighty who oversees our life.
Today, I received an SMS from a number which seems to be familiar but I lost the contact. It says, “The more you honour me, the more will I bless you” a famous quote from Infant Jesus of Prague.
In my life thus far, I’m blessed. I sure do but I’m sure there are certain times I’m being punished for my own mistakes which all the times involves money. I guess, there’s always a price to pay for not obeying commands.
These past few days, I’ve practically shut most entertainment out and focus on few objectives. Finding the right tune to jump start everything back again. Spending time alone and leaving the online world alone by itself. It was a great moment and time well spent with my inner soul. Most importantly, listening to Him speak.
I’m writing this post in an aimless manner. There is no objective of this post but rather squeezing the last bit of my brain juice. Oh yeah! I know, the objective of this post is to tell you that, I’m back. Fresher than ever!
Time to rock, yo!
Sometimes…
Oct 23rd
… you can kinda guess what the other person is thinking or feels about you.
If you have offended the other person or being annoying or somehow, you’ve got him/her at the wrong time during the his/her wrong mood.
The only think you can do is back down and shut up.
Haiyo, you don’t need an expert to tell you this lah. Why go dig your own grave? Seriously! Funny how that I have to be the troubleshooter.
Often couples or two individuals would argue or end up being not friends (sometimes for a short period of time) because they would further probe questions like:
“Why are you not replying my question?”
“Have you no reaction to my last words?”
“Why you didn’t reply my SMS/Chat/Email/Facebook/MSN?”
“Why this, why that, why the sun, why the sea bla bla bla…?”
and the worst is this:
“What have I done wrong now?” If the answer is “nothing“, means you better go dig a hole quickly and bury yourself in there.
Maybe not the questions but the actions that you’ve done that just got into the other person’s nerve. Irritating, so to say. Just stop there.
I guess after spending so much time with another person, one will understand them better to know who they really are, what they like, what they don’t like, what bothers them, what makes them happy and etc.
I feel that you can use that advantage of understanding towards that person so you don’t fall into a cold relationship with them. I mean, you know how they are like so don’t go beyond that line.
I definitely do not want a bad relationship with anyone. Do you?
But then again, there is another point of view. You may think that you would have known the other person well, and you think that you know what you should do when that person is on emotional roller coaster be it good or bad. You backed down and decided not to jump onto the same ride knowing that person may not like it or you feel that you’ve done so much but felt not appreciated and what not…
You could be wrong. Simple truth, don’t judge a book by its cover. I learned earlier this week that, don’t just assume what that other person would think. It’s just a mere concern and understanding everyone need. That’s all.
What you think you might know may not be what you think it is.
Okay… I’m just randomly babbling out my random thoughts.
