Wow! How fast time flies and yeah, hey fellow readers… How have you been? I’ve been busy, well work and been travelling a lot for work recently.

I had a conversation yesterday and it’s about how complicated the relationship of a friend of mine is.

Say, C was in a relationship with A and their love for each other was going downhill with compatibility issues.

Then, enter B who C met at place D and soon affections were seen flying between them.

Hence, at this point, I asked “What’s the difference of B and what makes him better man than A?”

C said something along this line “He is caring and loving.” but I was not satisfied with the answer and asked further, “Define “caring” and “love” to me.” which she replied, “well… he has his persistence and expressiveness…”

At that, I practically continue driving and trying very hard to decipher her reply of ‘persistence and expressiveness’ and thought to myself, “is that just to attract the opposite gender or fulfilment towards a relationship or love?”. I did not post the same thoughts to her.

But then again, I remember writing something about making a relationship work earlier this year and I found my written piece of Best Out Of Love

In the end of the day, love is a very subjective topic and it is a very personal issue which takes more than one person to work on it, to make it work. I guess, when it comes to love, we just have to make the best out of it. Make the best out of love because love knows no boundary and with love, everything’s possible.

YapThomas. 23rd January 2010

I would like to think that finding the right life partner takes more than persistence and being expressive.

I shall leave it as just that, as I have my own views, but do feel to ask me in person to know what it is.

I’ve wrote more than enough in this category of Love & Relationship for me to reflect and know what I pretty much want on this certain subject (Love & Relationship) of my life.

On another note, today I watched Tandoori Love which is now showing at GSC International Screens’ European Film Festival 2011.

Awesome movie and love the quirky way how they write about love and put it on screen. Must watch while they are still running it. Please check the movie show times here > GSC International Screens

Till next time, ciao!

Sometimes, I don’t even know what I did wrong… Maybe I was just blatant ignorant…

For example, I got thrown tantrum at when I returned items belonging to 1 person. I was dumbfounded. Truth someone please… I need to know why because at least, I know what to do next time?

Back then, when I implement some new changes in the company, I was rather looked at being the bad person. I was told, why did I not fight for them so that those new changes will not be in effect. Hello, I still need to keep my rice bowl wan okay. You still need to keep yours, so you might as well follow, no?

When it comes to relationship, now I know why some people would rather stay the distance after a break-up. It is either the break-up was really horrible or it’s just to avoid unnecessary issues arising from meeting up. On this hand, I am on the later part. I do not want to create any hope, even though, yes it is over we can be friends, but it is just, well, words can’t describe it. I had few instances where I feel that ceasing communications would be a good idea for both parties. I know it is not helping as much, but as long as it is the only way to ensure that I don’t ruin it further, I shall actually cease the communication. Partly maybe because I may be the cause of all issues arising.

Hmm…..

Hate. Let’s talk about this issue, as it seems to be a hot issue right now in my life.

I’ve never really hated anyone actually. Maybe once or twice. Once was when I was in primary school, a schoolmate of mine did something really embarrassing to me that it is the topic of conversation between my primary mates whenever we meet now. Second, would be my previous employer. That’s it, I shall save the details for personal note.

Other than that, even though for someone who lied and took my money for drugs, someone who took advantage of me and never pay for my travel service nor someone who cheated on me I can’t take myself to hate them. No reasons why. Maybe, it is because I know for a fact that forgiving them would be much easier than taking them to grudge. I should have known that for my primary school mate and ex employer.

When I do something great for people, they don’t remember it. I guess what most people say is true. Your bad traits are remembered to your grave, but not many of your good traits.

What do I ask when I go the extra mile to help a friend to get things done? What do I ask when in bad times, I help both in kind and monetary? What do I ask when you needed an ear, I lend mine? I do not ask for a return if one can’t, but just a gratitude. I am glad that I have friends like that, but not many.

Seriously, sometimes, being hated is much better than being loved. Because, it solves so much rather than me hating them.

So where do I stand in all these issues? I don’t know… I just do what I think I know it is best.

Hate or love, you all choose…

Haha, seriously, I think a lot of people are more worried of me being single than I actually am myself. But, great! Thanks for the concern people. But, bearing in mind that if I am meant to be single, then it is God’s will, not mine. Then again, men and women are meant to be united as one in God’s Kingdom. Hence, I am sure there is one person out there whom he has kept waiting for me while I build his Kingdom. (Okay, I am sounding like I am preaching the whole lot of the Church but hey, that’s my life man. Either you like me bad, or you like me good.)

Okay, what I am going to touch about here is “Support System” in a relationship, be it your family, friends, date or your spouse. Often in relationship, the key issue faced is “time” spent together. I think this is actually the main major issue most relationship fail.

Let me take for example of relationship as a couple. Steph and I talked about our friends who finds that relationship is all about spending time together as a couple. To me, probably that is not entirely true. I believe and I think that being in a relationship is all about support. Often that we hear that one side of a couple says that their partner doesn’t spend much time together with him/her. They go on and complaint that all their partner do is work and work and only spend 1 time a week with him/her. I could say that mostly, again, “mostly” the women will complaint about that the most.

What is support in a relationship?

To put it simply, personally, I feel that when the man goes to work, what most the woman can do is support. Often at many times, woman thinks that their man should be giving more time to her instead of his work. There are many more but I shall not go further. My opinion is much one-sided but I suppose men has the tendency to do such complaints too. Now, the earlier comment is very subjective, because certain group of woman would think that when their man only knows about work, there could be a hidden agenda or something.

Now, I wouldn’t say this is not true but… hey, all man are evil to you ladies who has been cheated by their man, no?

While another group would think that they are second in priority in her man’s life and heart.

Personally, if I was that man (I’m such a classic good example no?), I would say “Give me all the support that you can as much as I give all the love I can give to you.” When I put an importance to my work now, I am putting an importance towards you as well as to our future “if” we ever build a family together.

As I put it in my own words, “I am building my empire here”, a future for myself or the both of us. If all you can do is complaint of the lack of time spent together while not trusting me doing my bit for the relationship of ours, then it will never end. Of course, time spent will be limited but the trust, love and support should and must be greater than that!

Because, the glory will come for the family when the man has more than enough to provide for the family and it will also be the time the man will have more time to spend with his loved ones. Unless the man of the family don’t have proper planning or succession plans in his work/business, it will not help much. Let’s talk reality here, living expenses is just going up by the day and if the man can’t provide for himself enough, what makes you think there will be a family which can survive by just enough?

Plus, when it comes to support it is also a mutual role in providing for the family. Hence, women plays equal part. In this world, man are never higher than woman, just the role is different in the life of a man or woman.

I would say that, be it if you are a woman or a man. In a relationship, support them all you can with any means and in any stage of your life. If your spouse works late night, ask them if they need food. If your spouse is having trouble at work, be a good listener. If your spouse can’t cook well so do you, eat out together. If your spouse is having income issues this month, spend less and budget for the month. In any situation, there is a way out. In the end, the essence of relationship is being together happy with love in the eyes of God (if you are a religious person). Plus, you don’t need to be a religious person to know what’s love.

This shall be the epilogue to my previous similar post which is “10 to 3“.

In this Love & Relationship department, I am a person who enjoys companionate love more than a passionate love. Companionate love is more on affection, appreciation and companionship while passionate love is all exciting and intense.

You know in these whole love and relationship scenario they all call it “The Love Game“. So I thought I was doing my best (some disagree), well most of the time and all I wanna do is to get the best out of love. Then again, always the case is that I chooses the path that brings me pain because “stubborn” is my middle name. Probably also because I thought it was a piece of cake.

So, summary of the recent happening?

We both have separate need and wants and let’s just say in a very simple sentence that, we are not meant for each other. Maybe I wasn’t good enough that it all ended between us. Then, now the sentence I once said came true (click to read). Hence, I still will not have a Valentine’s Story to tell after all. Haha

I wanted a good ending, but then it came to a point that sometimes, I don’t even know what is going on. A simple conversation of two normal person can’t even be constructed. Probably, the issue is me all the while. I don’t know, maybe it was a good ending?

I was told “How nice if I can delete those memories… and don’t care anymore”. I ain’t that kind of person and I don’t understand how can other people do it, I just can’t. Probably because I am too nice of a person? I was asked also if hate would come in play, I said no. It is just not me.

At least I know that I did tried my best to make things work, cause it will be a biggest failure if I didn’t. Probably, what people say that sometimes, they are just not yours are just true.

I somehow like to put a relationship as equal to a song which comes in music and lyrics like how other people would equate their love in movies . If there is a song I would relate to, it would be none other than Justin Bieber – Eenie Meenie. I know right, of all artist, but then, it sound quite the appropriate right now.

After all, now all I can do is wish you a great companion to the other.

Hopefully in the near future, when I find The One, I can start planning a 248K wedding and start issuing wedding summons already.

PS: So many links and they are all under Love & Relationship category. Haha

When you are in a relationship, you don’t actually measure the length and time. What matters is who the person whom you are with and the time spent together, doing things that you both want to do.

I could really say that I fell more than I ever wanted to, in love.

Making a decision based on rational and emotional, I chose rational and yet I couldn’t help from letting the emotional side overtook my initial decision.

I do really wish we could go down the same path again and wish that things would go back the same again.

I can never let go off you. I wanted to but it’s the mouth that speak, not the heart.

If anything, I want you to know that I really loved you and would want to still do so.

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I want to know… and at the same time… I don’t want to know…

I want to know just because I want to know…

I don’t want to know too because I know the answer will not be favorable to my liking…

This whole thing is just bugging me day and night… I don’t want to but I can’t help it…

It comes naturally you know!!!

So tell me?

I am having a love-hate relationship with my mind right?

I know right!

Oh… WTF lah… I am gonna immense myself with lots of work and sleepless night!

… I am really trying very hard

… to make it all work for us

… probably the time isn’t just right

… but then again, when would be the right time then?

… I am doing my best, not just trying

I guess it is the season for weddings now as I am getting lots of invites for it, or is it that people my age are all getting married? It’s like, marriage is the “IN” thing now. You don’t get married you are just plain joe and you are out of the circle kind thing. T__T

So yes, this is particular wedding pics are all from Mae and Eu Hann’s wedding.

Because I took some pictures, that’s why.

So here is Mae and Eu Hann, looking very lovely…

Here are some funny moment shots… and it was the end of the church service and the usual “flower throwing” ceremony is happening outside the church.

The lady in red asking all the single ladies to line up and catch the rose bouquet when Mae throws it.

Mae is checking if all the ladies all lined up and ready to catch the rose bouquet she is gonna throw.

The ladies are all waiting in line anxiously. I guess that if guys wanna find any partner, the best place would be at a church service. Seriously! You will know who are the single ladies at the end of the church service.

Plus, if you wanna look for marriage, then a church service is also a right place as the one who runs and catches the rose bouquet would be your best bet.

So yes, I guess this saman season is also good lah. Pay saman and can take home a prize too if lucky.

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