I think, there are many times that I’ve step on many wrong foot…
Sometimes, I don’t even know what I did wrong… Maybe I was just blatant ignorant…
For example, I got thrown tantrum at when I returned items belonging to 1 person. I was dumbfounded. Truth someone please… I need to know why because at least, I know what to do next time?
Back then, when I implement some new changes in the company, I was rather looked at being the bad person. I was told, why did I not fight for them so that those new changes will not be in effect. Hello, I still need to keep my rice bowl wan okay. You still need to keep yours, so you might as well follow, no?
When it comes to relationship, now I know why some people would rather stay the distance after a break-up. It is either the break-up was really horrible or it’s just to avoid unnecessary issues arising from meeting up. On this hand, I am on the later part. I do not want to create any hope, even though, yes it is over we can be friends, but it is just, well, words can’t describe it. I had few instances where I feel that ceasing communications would be a good idea for both parties. I know it is not helping as much, but as long as it is the only way to ensure that I don’t ruin it further, I shall actually cease the communication. Partly maybe because I may be the cause of all issues arising.
Hate. Let’s talk about this issue, as it seems to be a hot issue right now in my life.
I’ve never really hated anyone actually. Maybe once or twice. Once was when I was in primary school, a schoolmate of mine did something really embarrassing to me that it is the topic of conversation between my primary mates whenever we meet now. Second, would be my previous employer. That’s it, I shall save the details for personal note.
Other than that, even though for someone who lied and took my money for drugs, someone who took advantage of me and never pay for my travel service nor someone who cheated on me I can’t take myself to hate them. No reasons why. Maybe, it is because I know for a fact that forgiving them would be much easier than taking them to grudge. I should have known that for my primary school mate and ex employer.
When I do something great for people, they don’t remember it. I guess what most people say is true. Your bad traits are remembered to your grave, but not many of your good traits.
What do I ask when I go the extra mile to help a friend to get things done? What do I ask when in bad times, I help both in kind and monetary? What do I ask when you needed an ear, I lend mine? I do not ask for a return if one can’t, but just a gratitude. I am glad that I have friends like that, but not many.
Seriously, sometimes, being hated is much better than being loved. Because, it solves so much rather than me hating them.
So where do I stand in all these issues? I don’t know… I just do what I think I know it is best.
Hate or love, you all choose…
It was just over the weekend I had dinner with Steph. Well, the usual catch up session and all. We then touched on the topic of relationship. She sparked the question, “So, any prospect yet with any girls?”.
Haha, seriously, I think a lot of people are more worried of me being single than I actually am myself. But, great! Thanks for the concern people. But, bearing in mind that if I am meant to be single, then it is God’s will, not mine. Then again, men and women are meant to be united as one in God’s Kingdom. Hence, I am sure there is one person out there whom he has kept waiting for me while I build his Kingdom. (Okay, I am sounding like I am preaching the whole lot of the Church but hey, that’s my life man. Either you like me bad, or you like me good.)
Okay, what I am going to touch about here is “Support System” in a relationship, be it your family, friends, date or your spouse. Often in relationship, the key issue faced is “time” spent together. I think this is actually the main major issue most relationship fail.
Let me take for example of relationship as a couple. Steph and I talked about our friends who finds that relationship is all about spending time together as a couple. To me, probably that is not entirely true. I believe and I think that being in a relationship is all about support. Often that we hear that one side of a couple says that their partner doesn’t spend much time together with him/her. They go on and complaint that all their partner do is work and work and only spend 1 time a week with him/her. I could say that mostly, again, “mostly” the women will complaint about that the most.
What is support in a relationship?
To put it simply, personally, I feel that when the man goes to work, what most the woman can do is support. Often at many times, woman thinks that their man should be giving more time to her instead of his work. There are many more but I shall not go further. My opinion is much one-sided but I suppose men has the tendency to do such complaints too. Now, the earlier comment is very subjective, because certain group of woman would think that when their man only knows about work, there could be a hidden agenda or something.
Now, I wouldn’t say this is not true but… hey, all man are evil to you ladies who has been cheated by their man, no?
While another group would think that they are second in priority in her man’s life and heart.
Personally, if I was that man (I’m such a classic good example no?), I would say “Give me all the support that you can as much as I give all the love I can give to you.” When I put an importance to my work now, I am putting an importance towards you as well as to our future “if” we ever build a family together.
As I put it in my own words, “I am building my empire here”, a future for myself or the both of us. If all you can do is complaint of the lack of time spent together while not trusting me doing my bit for the relationship of ours, then it will never end. Of course, time spent will be limited but the trust, love and support should and must be greater than that!
Because, the glory will come for the family when the man has more than enough to provide for the family and it will also be the time the man will have more time to spend with his loved ones. Unless the man of the family don’t have proper planning or succession plans in his work/business, it will not help much. Let’s talk reality here, living expenses is just going up by the day and if the man can’t provide for himself enough, what makes you think there will be a family which can survive by just enough?
Plus, when it comes to support it is also a mutual role in providing for the family. Hence, women plays equal part. In this world, man are never higher than woman, just the role is different in the life of a man or woman.
I would say that, be it if you are a woman or a man. In a relationship, support them all you can with any means and in any stage of your life. If your spouse works late night, ask them if they need food. If your spouse is having trouble at work, be a good listener. If your spouse can’t cook well so do you, eat out together. If your spouse is having income issues this month, spend less and budget for the month. In any situation, there is a way out. In the end, the essence of relationship is being together happy with love in the eyes of God (if you are a religious person). Plus, you don’t need to be a religious person to know what’s love.
OMG! She so cute lah! and the dancing bit… I already can follow liao! hahaha
If you haven’t watch it already, click to load the video already!
She so keeewwwtt right? Such a cutie darling…
Quick! Share it with your friends! A new YouTube star is coming to rise!
There were a lot of plans popping up for New Year’s Eve (NYE) and some of it includes Langkawi or KL hotspots.
Then again, The Boys was rather tired with all the fast moving parties and of course, crowd. We had endured all those past years’ celebration and this time, we opted for somewhat more quiet and subtle plan. Just dinner and chill.
We went to Solaris Mon’t Kiara and thought it will not be so pack, but when I reach, one street way was closed for table set ups and what not and there was a stage! Then again, it was not as pack as KL lah.
Made a reservation at Meatworks at 9PM, but it was stated 7PM. Lucky table is available when we arrived.
When Pat got the menu and he was like, “The food here looks yummy”. I said, “Definitely” and thus giving him an approval for the good food at Meatworks! Haha
The others were a little late but it’s okay, we got time. I ordered some starters and Rue’s comment on ox tail soup prompted me to order one. Haha
For my main dish, I had Sirloin, medium well done. Well, it is kinda dry, but then, it’s medium well. Would’ve opted for medium rare but I would rather eat something done well as I was kinda sick.
The company was great, except, would have been better if CK and all our +1 was there. But oh wells, it’s okay as Ben went and rented a crowd of 3 to make up the numbers.
When we finished our dinner and thus it was just right at strike of midnight.
So, I wasn’t in the right mood where I expected more of that night, but then again, beggars can’t be choosers. I can only expect, and if it doesn’t happen, I can’t do much. I wanted more beer and Pat and I went to this Berlin Biergarten.
The staff got screwed by me for telling me no jug is being sold and I saw with my own eyes other tables got served jug. He pushed 2 pints of Heineken to us instead of jug. I pitied him in the end as he caught me at my wrong mood and paid him off some tips after all.
Rue was MIA and so does Ben and the rented crowd. Haha. But they all came back.
Some introduction, (from left) Me, Pat, Ben, Nas, Annabelle, Nafiah, Shadd and Rue. We were just chilling and talking and laughing and it was time to go when people start making funny faces, especially me! Haha.
Pat’s expression was classic!
I was playing with Pat’s wine bag and look, I made a tongue! T__T
Berlin Biergarten was giving out party packs and this clappy thing was part of the pack.
Some group pictures to end my first post for new year!
Have a great one ahead and you’ll be hearing from me more often now…
The past three weeks, I have been attending three weddings!
I guess it is the season for weddings now as I am getting lots of invites for it, or is it that people my age are all getting married? It’s like, marriage is the “IN” thing now. You don’t get married you are just plain joe and you are out of the circle kind thing. T__T
So yes, this is particular wedding pics are all from Mae and Eu Hann’s wedding.
Because I took some pictures, that’s why.
So here is Mae and Eu Hann, looking very lovely…
Here are some funny moment shots… and it was the end of the church service and the usual “flower throwing” ceremony is happening outside the church.
The lady in red asking all the single ladies to line up and catch the rose bouquet when Mae throws it.
Mae is checking if all the ladies all lined up and ready to catch the rose bouquet she is gonna throw.
The ladies are all waiting in line anxiously. I guess that if guys wanna find any partner, the best place would be at a church service. Seriously! You will know who are the single ladies at the end of the church service.
Plus, if you wanna look for marriage, then a church service is also a right place as the one who runs and catches the rose bouquet would be your best bet.
So yes, I guess this saman season is also good lah. Pay saman and can take home a prize too if lucky.
Craziness… Oh wells… Watch thei video…. This is pre-drunk. Will update the drunk version later… Hehhe…
By the time you read this, I’ve passed my 48 hours from my previous post and I’m well on my way for a family retreat…
You would have probably came from Hanis Zalikha’s blog hehe…
Let me show you why we all nickname her “Chomell“… which sprouted the #chomel hastag in Twitter.
This was what we were doing while waiting at Jakarta Airport for our flight on Garuda Indonesia which was re-scheduled.
So #chomel Right? hahaha
There you go… another outdated post which was like 4 months ago? Haha
So yes, this was my impromptu birthday celebration at Delicious, Marc Residence, KLCC. It was so impromptu that I SMS mass-invite so last minute that many people couldn’t make it.
So here are the pictures and one “amateur” video at the end. Enjoy!
The Birthday Cake…
With all “The Boys”…
Group pic take one…
and one nice one…
and of course, the video as mentioned.
Nice or not the video? Hehe… I know right, I damn pro! T___T
Ermm.. next would be the Launching of Tiger Year by Tiger Beer…
Stay away you worthless creatures for that I party only with supermodels!
Don’t believe me? See for yourself!
FHM Girl Next Door 2010 Winner, Yvonne Sim.
FHM GND 2010 and Miss Universe Malaysia 2010 Finalist, Katherine Ng.
Nah… actually, I’m just an opportunist. I don’t party with supermodels like how David Lai would do now.
The above two pictures was taken during FHM GND private party courtesy of Ms. JunJunRiko. It was so happening that I had to go for one reason and that one reason is to meet Hui Jeat. It was really disappointing that she left the venue early. Linora can tell how disappointing I was. :p
Here are the pictures from the FHM Girl Next Door Party at Carlsberg HQ. Enjoy…
The host, Ms. JunJunRiko…
Linora and Mr. G was there too…
Carol is taller than me now…wtf
and finally here are the rest of the pictures for that night.
David Lai who is back, then.
One last one for the road…
I must start partying already. Must not lose to Ms. G who has been partying every week now already!