Domestic Matter

These few days I can’t have a good night sleep. Heck! My wet dreams also gone!

I find the need to consult everyone’s opinion about this matter as I don’t think I could
handle it well enough with many reasons to begins with is ME myself.

It is pretty much a domestic matter I am facing these past two days. The situation goes.
It is a situation I am facing with my house mates and they are couples. I shall leave them
as couple A and couple B. My apartment is very “muhibbah” where I have Malay,
Chinese and Indian living under one roof. Couple A is a mixture of both and couple B is
just one race.

I moved into my apartment since September 2006 along with couple A whom I have
met through a friend of mine. They have been great house mates and I have no matters
living with them, even they are both from different race and one of them being a Muslim.

We stayed there for like nearly half-a-year till I got couple B to come in and share the
unit as they are also looking for a place to stay where their workplace is very near.

Over the past one year, we face small matters of sensitivity of couple B bringing friends
over and the malay house mate always invite her friend over. Well, being in Malaysia
and with all the syariah this and that it is hard to a non-muslim and a muslim to stay
together unless they are married. Because of this that person wants to lay low and try
not to let many people know they are living together. That was bygone story.

The real deal is, recently couple B went and bought a dog and decided to keep it at my
apartment. I was not told, I was not consulted and I only knew about it when the dog
was brought back. Immediately, I knew it is gonna cause a ruckus and me being the
middle person between this two couples I have mediate things up.

Ms. A is not very happy because she being a Muslim dogs are considered unclean in
their teaching. I will not doubt that because childhood friend of mine shared it with
me before. I seek more answers regarding Muslim and Dogs and I find many
arguments are being stated seeking the true fact on their Prophet’s teaching. Today,
when men are wiser and thinking is more open, I find another understanding towards
Dogs in Islam.
I just couldn’t understand why couple B don’t know about this little fact?
Ignorant or not, I try very much to understand other’s religion and beliefs as that is
also part of my teaching as well. It is a sense of respect and considerateness towards
the other Muslim/Buddhist/Hindu party.

In my case, couple B take no heeds in their understanding and consideration towards
Ms. A’s feelings as she is rather not so open minded kind of believer. When I told
Mr. B that I prefer not to have the dog in the apartment, I was told I am bias and
unfair and have not told them about it and putting it in a way that I am chasing them away from the apartment because of it. How could I be bias as I am acting on the
basis of dogs are not allowed in resident apartments. I do not want to be fined because
of problems not created by me and also they are not master tenant as I AM.

When I asked Mr. B to be more considerate towards Ms. A’s religion and I was told
not to talk religion to them as they said the biggest sin is them. Referring to couple
A whom are Muslim and non-Muslim living together. I find this thinking pretty much
shallow and that really threw my much respect towards him.

While that was being said, Ms. B put it in a way that it is their room and their right
to keep the dog in the room. I have totally no answer to this statement plus, I do
really pity the dog as both of them are out for work morning till evening and leaving
the dog in the room all alone will of course lead the dog to bark and thus disturbing
other neighbours. I was told the dog is very quite and don’t bark randomly. -_-

What disgust me is that couple B never even asked me about getting the dog and I
told Mr. B about it and his reply is. A photo was showed to Ms. A and she never
mentioned anything so we thought there are no objection to us getting the dog.
Again, that is just plain stupidity and dumb. Ms. A never wanted to say anything
because she don’t want to make a fuss out of it while letting me know first and see
how I can change their mind in getting a dog. They got the dog the night itself. sigh.

I am now stuck in between being nice and mean as I can’t be mean as I just don’t
know how and I JUST CAN’T! I was told I need to and I must in this situation.
Couple B has been talking about moving out because of the tense situation and I was
told by March they will be gone. Couple A is having the thought I am kicking them out
because of this matter and I am siding couple A.

I have two dogs back home in Klang and I love them very much. It is just I find it is
really not appropriate to have a pet dog in a resident apartment and it is unfair to
Ms. A as we are all living under one roof.

I have had my tolerance and enough being considerate to both parties!!!
It is either now I shall put my verdict as the dog out or them out. Either way, if couple
A is confirmed going to move out, I still will not have the dog in the apartment. I just
couldn’t open my mouth and just say “I’m giving you guys one month to look for
another place to stay” because I do not want to spoil my friendship with them. sigh.

WHAT SHOULD I DO!???

UPDATE!
I have made my verdict that from now on, everyone in the household listens to me.
I haven’t got any reply from anyone since I left a big huge note with English and BM.
Yes, Bahasa Malaysia and don’t play play okay.. I was commented that my bahasa
is better! muahahaha. It was more of my verdict and my verdict is
1) The dog gets out of the house
2) No more visitor to the apartment. Unless unanimous consent from everyone.