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Feb 15th
I was so dead tired that I wrote this post halfway and slept. Woke up and saw that I’ve got nearly 70% spelling errors and bad ‘ENGLAND’ top to bottom. I even tagged ‘Business’ for this post -_-
Valentine’s Day, which happened yesterday was pretty much any other single day to me, except that the feel for the day is so much different. I think it is all about the ‘Love Is In The Air‘ that is floating all around us. Don’t you think so?
So how was your Valentine’s day?
On Friday morning, I had this new client asking me how am I going to celebrate my Valentine’s. I replied,
“Hmmm… Let’s see. I’m going to buy her the biggest rock any jewelry shop sells and register ourselves together with 99 other couples and book our honeymoon at Bahamas or Tahiti“
She is the one who heard my voice over the phone, and registered myself in her books that I’m way past my mid 20s. When she saw me during our meet, she got shocked to see and know that I’ve not even past mid 20s. That is in the case of my position.
So she replied to my answer,
“You serious? Congratulation man! So young at your age you achieve so much already.“
The fun was over when I laughed over the phone after her reply. Hahaha
If ever that were really happening. If ever…
I also had a few random question being thrown to me during this Valentine’s Day celebration.
I was at a roadblock on Friday and it was also past midnight at Jalan Tun Razak while I was heading back from office. Usually they will strike a conversation with you so that they can smell if you were drinking or not. So we did a small chat.
Police: Dari mane nih? (“Where did you came from?”)
Me: Dari office la bang. (“From the office”)
Police: Mana girlfriend? Valentine’s ma (“Where’s your girlfriend? It’s Valentine’s”)
Me: Girlfriend kat rumah lah bang. Dia tengah tidur. (“She’s at home. Sleeping”)
Don’t ask me how did I came up with an imaginary ‘girlfriend’ suddenly. -_- Words just came out babbling as I was nearly zoning out completely, dead tired.
Then, it was Saturday afternoon. I was in KL and I was walking from Lot 10 to Sg Wang. I bumped into Chung Lern and Stephanie. I actually ‘bump’ into him intentionally…
Chung Lern: EH! Thomas! That’s why lah, I thought why this guy look so familiar.
Thomas: Hahaha… Hieeee… Happy Valentine’s Day!
Chung Lern: Where you going?
Thomas: I’m going to Sg. Wang. Wanna find a backpack.
Chung Lern: Alone?
Thomas: Yes, I’m alone.
Chung Lern: What? You serious ah? Alone?
Thomas: Yes, I am!!! What’s so wrong about going out all alone?
Chung Lern: No lah… *yada yada yada*
When he said that “What? You serious ah? Alone?”. It was quite loud and those passerbys who heard that was like looking weird at me. I know lah it is Valentine’s Day but what’s wrong or sad about going out all alone to shop?
Maybe, they have never been alone for quite some time. As in, they have their partner in their life and going out alone seems rather a rare ocassion? Hmm…
Then, yesterday night during dinner, Erin started asking everyone what’s their first Valentine’s Day ‘date’ like.
Erin: So Mr. Yap. What’s your story?
Me: *Smile* hmmm… Valentine’s Date huh…
Erin: Come on.. I’m sure you have a good one.
So, I’ve got no Valentine’s Day ‘date’ story to tell. Nothing juicy or good came out either.
But, came to think of it again now, all I had was what silly things I’ve done in the past years back then for ‘that‘ girl. If it were to flashback at me that time during dinner, I would have talked non stop.
Hmm… Hopefully, next year onwards I wouldn’t be replying any police that I have an imaginary girlfriend, not being so much alone during Valentine’s day and I would definitely have great love stories to share…
Financial Security
Jan 20th
It is yet another great lunch talk I had earlier today.
So yeah, I was in the midst of doing some plumbing work in the office and I got a call from her. She works nearby and ask to meet up for lunch. Yes, part of my job scope is plumbing too! Austerity drive! Must do everything yourself. Call plumber cost RM 150, do it yourself, save RM 150. It’s P&L!
Anyways, back to the topic.
We were talking about what’s new and everything. So happen both of us got good news to share. The talk ventured into the topic of financial stability.
The gist is that, she has been dating and throughout the relationship lately, her BF is kinda ignoring the fact of this part of “SECURITY” which women nowadays would look into, besides all those mushy mushy blah blah blah security…
When women hint that you need to buck up on that part of “security”, you better buck it up. They will never leave, but they would just keep on complaining and ‘yacking‘ till kingdom comes. So, to overcome that, buck it up!!!
I mean, come on, we have to be materialistic. You like it or not, money will somehow be part of your life. It can’t buy you love, but it will work things out smoothly. You still need food and home and cloths. All those need $$$$$$$. Enough said.
Many people, including youth nowadays neglect the fact of the importance to plan their finances in a very proper way. I had a bad start after college, and I don’t rely much on family. Not a person who is born of golden spoon either. I am no expert to tell you what’s proper financial planning, but it is something one has to learn by himself.
Financial security takes up a big chunk in a relationship to really work. I mean, you don’t need to be super rich, but you still have to provide the basic means and men has the bigger responsibility in this part. So, I think.
Unless, like I told this friend of mine that she can be the career woman and his BF can be the house-husband. Which, I find, not a totally wrong concept. Why not? The world is changing, so, we have to just learn to adapt.
So men will now do the dishes, tuck the kids to sleep, change the kids’ diapers, clean the toilet, clean the house, pay the bills, buy groceries, mow the lawn and yada..yada..yada..
Hmmm.. interesting. Maybe I could give it a try.
BUT, NO!
I still want to be the voice of the house. It’s just men’s EGO lah…
I want to be the one providing to the family, more. I want to be the one making sure everything is taken care of for the engagement, the wedding dinner and suits, the honeymoon, the wife’s maternity, the car, the house, the kids’ growing up expenses, the kids’ education and the maid (You lazy, you pay).
But, of course, this responsibility can be or rather should be shared with the partner, but us men takes the bigger chunk of responsibility. It depends. Sometimes the partner earns more, then, communicate and share it all out. Remember, you love the person, not the person’s money.
To do all the above, we need a proper planning. We need to plan from now itself that, what life do we want to enjoy when we age.
Do we want to enjoy just an average life or above than average life?
I certainly would choose the later.
So, in order to make the later happen, the progress starts now! I don’t want to wait till I’m hitting late 20s and still vague on what I want to achieve in life.
I once made a toast that I will be a millionaire by 30.
I think, I’m on a right track to provide financial security to the family in the future. Even if not for the family of my own, but to myself too. I’m sure women out there would agree on this financial security points of mine
I, have started my journey. Have you all men started your journey already?
Must Listen To Married Woman’s Advice
Jan 5th
I am seriously liking this client already!
Sometimes, a crazy Monday needs some light crazy phone conversation.
It was all about one Teh Tarik that she wants to reward me…
Client: I like ur response leh.. So fast! Come, come! I reward you one teh tahrik.
Me: Wah.. serious! I don’t mind. Once in a while, the client spend supplier. Yay!
Client: Then you have to come over and claim your Teh Tarik lor…
Me: Oh yeah! There got Kopitiam at your building. We can have white coffee instead.
Client: har? You don’t want our very own…
Me: Wait! Your office got that superb Teh Tarik machine thingy! That one will do!
Client: Whoa.. you are so easy to please lah… too bad, I’m married.
Me: Aiyak… there goes my chance…
Client: Eh.. u faster go and find one lah… (She does that all the time)
Me: hahaha… like shopping by the roadside, choose one?
Client: Aiyahhh.. You don’t have to be so picky ma can find lor…
Me: THAT, I have to disagree. Have to be a little bit picky. It’s for life okay!
Client: Actually yeah, must be picky. Listen to this married woman’s advice.
Me: hahaha. Not a bad decision I’ve mad all these while…
So yes! Being picky for a men is, right!
It’s not about looks. It’s not about money. It’s not only about personality.
It is the whole, if you can live with that person for the rest of your life and live happily together after you’ve said your “I Do”.
Agree?
Is It That HARD!??
Dec 23rd
(I realized much later that I didn’t put a title for this post! -_-)
“Why is it so hard to just ask you out?”. Said a friend of mine to me earlier today…
Story was…
We have not met for quite some time. Only did manage to exchange hand waves and smiles when we bump into each other. Always, it was at clubs. Since I seldom, now, go to clubs I seldom bump into her.
It was Blanc Le Club soft launching night and I bump into her again. We chat a lil bit and exchange contacts. Twice I lost my phone, twice I lost her contact, twice I have to ask for her number again. Hahaha
This morning, still drowsy at home, I got a call from her at 11ish. We were suppose to meet up for lunch. Finally we made the effort to meet up! haha! Our office is just next to each other.
The call was to inform me that the appointment is to be cancelled.
I told her, “Oh no! How? I’m kinda lined up for the whole week already!! See, I’ve got another full day tomorrow, then Christmas Day, then Friday is back to work again. I’m doing closing and reporting. Saturday kinda No No. Sunday is gonna be a no no too! I’ve got my nephew’s 1st Anniversary to attend. MUST GO that wan.”
When I’m done… a long silence, followed by
“Why is it so hard to just ask you out?” said my friend.
I let out a laugh…. “No! No! No! It’s easy… Just that, I prioritize things that matter to me first. AND of course, work is kinda like comes first.”
“So, Mr. Busy, when you wanna meet up?“. She is definitely not giving up.
“Ohkay, ohkay. I will slot tmr’s lunch for you okay!?”
“Tmr ah… ermm..”
“Now what… you telling me NOW you can’t?” Trying to pull her leg.
“No! No! No1. I’m just checking my schedule!!”
So, the lunch meet up was set and let’s hope no one flies each other’s kite!
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All I have to say is that, time constraint is making it very hard to meet up with everyone else.
Even, primary mate of mine text me on Sunday to meet up. But a made plan is a made plan. No changing, changing. So I skip the Sunday meet up. Partially also because I’m 70% going sick. Must take a good rest first mah…
Oh wells…
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On a side note, everyone seems to be in a very jolly-good mood now.
I’ve got a text from Dora asking what’s going on for Christmas. Seems like I’m not into planning anything anymore. I must get myself started into planning meet ups and what not again!!
MUST! MUST! Find Time To Plan up and coming event!! MUST! MUST!!!
Hmmm….
Should I throw a double wish list up now already? 
Tho, it never fulfills.. but naw.. just let it be as subtle as it is…
Some sense of Seduction?
Dec 14th
Got myself a bottle of Antonio Banderas Blue Seduction for men…
It is FREE!!!
How?
By using the art of leeching…
Naw, it’s more like people don’t want, I take lor…
It was during the OK! Magazine 3rd Anniversary Launch… 
(Source)
It’s DARING!
It’s SOPHISICATED!
It’s FUN!
It’s MODERN!
and
It’s SEDUCTIVE!
Since it is called Blue Seduction, I gave the SEDUCTIVEness a try…
A conversation I recall not too long ago. Not quite it how it went, but the gist is.
*enters car*
Tom: Hey! I got a new perfume, FREE!
Pam: How?
Tom: From OK! Magazine 3rd Anniversary Party. Smell see nice or not.
Pam: Quite nice wor…
Tom: Did it just seduced you?
Pam: err.. ohkkaayy…
Tom: hahahhaha
SEDUCTIVE??? maybe not…
Time to change fragrance… This time must BUY!
FREE stuffs don’t come good!! haha
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