Then I was talking to SeniorWil.

YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> said:
When we gonna do our meet up?
WiL – said:
ooo tricky question…
can i tembak saja or have to be precise??
YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> said:
hahaha
either one also can
you all don’t meet on wednesdays anymore?
WiL – says:
everybody are getting busier by the seconds…
its like in mid life crisis..
YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> says:
hahahha
MLC
WiL – says:
the only thing we’re lack of is family…
hahaha
ok i usually set appointments immediately..
so when are u free for dinner?
tmr night?
YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> says:
now!

But dinner did not materialize cause too immediate already! T_T

The point is, we are not like yesterday anymore. Where we can just plan meet ups without any commitments on hand. Today, we all have to book each other in advance! Such irony! But that’s the fact and that’s life.

Even worst when the other has a partner in their life, it would be even harder to get that person out to meet up. I have friends who are like that. They are stuck to their partner 24/7 hours. I always tell them, “Hello! You are gonna be stuck with each other till death do you apart. So, come out and meet up!“.

So yes, my calendar is filling up by the minute now. More to events and certain commitments I have to jump start year 2010.

Just like how Mae’s friends will regard me as “Always Busy“. That’s what I get when I was at Solaris last week during Hannah’s launch.

“Mae says that you are always busy wan wor. Will not make it to our event want wor…”

There you go, my trademark as Mr. Busy. What else will I get? haha…

This reminds me, I haven’t met The Boys for like ages already! Time to meet up Boys!

YapThomas: “Lunch?”
PTGF: “Next week can?”
YapThomas: “Can… Next week then…”

This was last week…

PTGF: “PTBF! This week very busy ler… Next week we meet up okay? Place and time you choose!”
YapThomas: “Ohkay lor… next week lor…”

Then, this morning…

YapThomas: “Lunch today?”

Within one minute, I realized that I had made prior plans. See! This is why I need an organizer! Gah! So, I quickly re-sent another message.

YapThomas: “Actually, I mistaken. It should be lunch tomorrow. At 12PM.”
PTGF: “On! See ya! ”
YapThomas: “Can’t wait to meet up in 24 hours.”
PTGF: “Haha. Actually more than 24 hours. Dress to kill! Giggles”
YapThomas: “I’ll definitely sweep you off the ground…”

OH NO! I’ve got a lunch date in more than 24 hours and I don’t have something to dress up in… to kill.

Ah hah! This calls for a shopping day out and tonight is the only time.

Must dress to kill… Must dress to kill… if not I will be killed. T_T

It was just pork knuckles my goodness! Anyways, girls and their “Oh no I’m so gonna get fat on that!” while on other hand they go “OOOHH I LIKE PORK!!!”.

Girls… So anyways, to my point before every other girl starts bashing me

Lunch conversation eventually landed to the question of me having a girlfriend or not. My answer is of course “Nope.. anyone to intro?” Right? We need to keep on prospecting, although am not serious about it.

So, she got a cousin sister to intro but well a little elder than me and her cousin sister likes shopping. (OH NO!) I told her, “Age doesn’t matter! I may look 18, actual age is 24 but I’m way better than my age.” (Don’t you agree? )

Wait, I haven’t got into my topic yet! -___- Somebody stop me from babbling pleaseeee!!!

So, she got married and I was asking her, “How long it took you to plan your wedding?”. “Five months.” she said. I paused and repeated in disbelief, “Five Month!?”. Oh wells, there are people who are ready to their wedding within 3-4 months. Again, I look at her in disbelief and she said, “NO! NO! Not accident! Nothing happened!”.

Hahahaha

So, my question is that how long usually would it take to plan a wedding? I mean, a memorable one. Doesn’t need to be the talk of the town and what not but a memorable one.

Ideally, in my own opinion, more than 5 months of course. Say one year? Which is the usual time frame one would take from engagement to marriage.

But then again, it really depends on budget in actual fact. See, she spent about RM 70-80K on her wedding (Wonder if that’s the actual amount). That’s like easily twice an average person’s annual salary. Non-executive level lah…

If I would plan my wedding, I would plan about one year ahead with proper timeline and expectations ahead. What kind of wedding we would want? where we want it to be? How many people we want to invite? Do we need to filter the 3rd or 4th generations or just call the whole ‘kampung‘? What outfits we want to choose? Do we want a theme? Do we want Chinese or Western or Malay meals? What are the suitable dates? Are we ready financially? and many more questions… *phew*

But, let’s get into the budget of all things which would decide how big or posh the wedding would be. I will go through the essential ones…

Venue = Four/Five Star Hotel (Hotel lah baru ada gaya…)
1) Wedding Invites and Prints = RM 3K (Should be sufficient)
2) Dinner Cost = RM 1500 per table x 80 tables = RM 120K. (I’ve got big family tree and I’m assuming my future wife’s family gonna be big too!! And I want everyone to eat good food! No shark fin but ginseng chicken!)
3) Venue Deco Cost = RM 10K (Must got the environment FEEEELL)
4) Performers = RM 10K (We can’t be entertaining 800 guests!)
5) Wedding Rings = RM 15K (Mr. Diamond will do just nice)
6) Wedding Gown for her = RM 10K (More than enough right?)
7) Wedding Suit for me = RM 5K (Tuxedo babeh!!)
9) Beer & Liquors = RM 10K (My friends drinks alcohol like water!)
10) Wedding Photo Shoot = RM 10K (Fly all the way to Maldives!)
11) Church Wedding Service = RM 5K (Oh it cost to wed in church okay!)
12) Church receptions = RM 5K (entertain the church people)
13) Ang Pows for bla bla bla bla = RM 5K (tips and what not)
14) Honeymoon = RM 20K (To the land far far away!!!)
15) Hotels for wedding guests = RM 10K (Families and Friends from afar)
16) After party = RM 10K (The whole of SkyBar for the night!)

Total Damage? = RM 248,000.00 Whoa! *drops dead*

*breaths in… breath out*

Don’t think I can manage 10% of that amount right now. But who knows? Five years down the road I’m more than ready?

Who says love and relationship doesn’t come in material? It happens and we are just humans…

That’s why plan plan and plan!!!

There you go, I’ve planned it already! I’m on track! Looking good for now. I’ve got my priorities set right. Just need to fine tune…

But then again, planning is just easy to say but after reading KimOng’s blog, it is gonna be a crazy long process…

I need to buck it up now or else it will go down the train, FOREVER!! Nooooo…

This evening while having my break from work, I was talking to JuniorCindy and the conversation goes on as follow:

YapThomas: how are you?
Cindy: ca va bienn (I’m fine)
Cindy: and you?
YapThomas: ca va bienn aussi (I’m fine too)
YapThomas: i miss speaking in french!
Cindy: haha alors, parle a moi en francais! (haha come, speak to me in French)
YapThomas: je parle un peu francais (I speak little bit of French)
Cindy: c’est assez! (That’s it)
YapThomas: oh no!! hahah
Cindy: je ne suis pas bien en francais aussi (I’m not too good in French too)
Cindy: comme toi
YapThomas: j’ai oublier francais… (I forger French)
YapThomas: je need more practice (I ‘need’ more practice)
YapThomas: haha
Cindy: j’ai oublie not oublier! *Kena Ajar*
Cindy: haha
YapThomas: Maafkan saya cikgu…
YapThomas: Saya tak buat kerja rumah…
YapThomas: Jangan pukul aku cikgu..!! JANGAN!!!!
Cindy: haha saya tidak pukul
Cindy: jgn risau
Cindy:  saya akan ajar. jikalau saya ada kebolehan itu =p

Then the catching up conversation ensued in Bahasa and suddenly she switches to french again… I’m totally lost and didn’t catch that word at all…

YapThomas: i want to hire people lah
Cindy: haha ou? (haha where?)
YapThomas:ou?
Cindy: wherE?
Cindy: haha
Cindy: ur french sgt karat sudah lah
YapThomas: how I know! suddenly bahasa then u jump to french! hahaha
YapThomas: a bit the karat lah… i blame my lack of sleep.. -_-

Betul betul karat lor…

Hmmm… where is my French book huh…

See! I seriously is gonna blame my lack of sleep! So, now it is time to say goodbye to work for now and head back home to sleep.

But wait.. before that… I need food… Hmmm…

Because you see, the only way for me to gain weight is to get married. This conversation happened earlier today.

Her: How tall are you ah? 190?
Me: What? no lah. 185 only…
Her: Ahh.. but only problem… you are just thin lah.
Me: Yeah lor.
Her: I’m sure you tried all ways to gain weight.
Me: Yeah! I did, like for a year. Nothing happened.
Her: Whoa, really ah. You tried ah.
Me: Yes, very the jealous right you? hahaha
Her: Yeah lor. But you only have one way to gain weight is when u…
Me & Her: Get married

We laughed it off that we got the same answer. The myth is not even a myth I guess

Earlier this year, I discovered Ensure but I didn’t follow my strict daily routine to pretty much continue it. Okay. My bad. I lack the discipline for it because I find that so much I’ve done but nothing worked.

So yeah… time to look into the one and only easy proven ways lah…

Get Married!

Hmmm… I reckon takes a long process tho… Why?

First, I need to find a girlfriend, then I need to date. Dating could go on well at first but what if the matching doesn’t goes on well, so meaning have to start all over again. The search starts all over and until the right one fits in so does the dating period takes its time and then okay, engagement. From then, it would probably take at least one year to plan and then marriage comes.

*phew*

Looks like this option is not an easy option either… Hmmm…

OMG! This is just silly… but wait. I am Tan Silly what!! :p

PTGF says (11:34 PM):
y my PTBF so happy today one leh?
YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> says (11:36 PM):
because he has been stuck at home
because he lost his voice due to sore throat
and now recuperating at home
but doesn’t seem to be recovering
PTGF says (11:36 PM):
u been sick for a while leh
u really should take care
PTGF says (11:37 PM):
hmmm…. would hv make u leong sui
but… too busy
hahha
sorry PTBF
YapThomas <Tan Sily Latuk YapThomas> says (11:37 PM):
yeah lor..
been a while
sigh..
yer… i wan leong sui!!

Why my PTGF so the busy wan… Summore go Australia don’t want bring me along…

*sniffs*

The sick (Okay, i’m 90% cured.. so what! blek..) needs to be pampered! :p

I shall go drink leong sui myself…

Oh.. for the lost soul.

leong sui = herbal drink.

This girl, stays in Australia, met this guy. Well, they have been going out with their other friends as well. Guy have been very gentleman to offer to cook her a meal at her place one day. He asked her permission to do so through her friend they both know. This girl says it is not convenient to do so. When asked why, she said that she wanted them to be friends and not more than that. Asked if he just do it as a gentleman and nothing more. (There were stories about how gentleman he is and how nice and sweet he is). Still, she says no.

Then this guy deejay commented on the whole story:
That’s sad man. Gentlemanly backfires because the girl doesn’t like you.

Like rubbing salt into a wound. Hahaha

I kinda think it was Mix.FM as it sounded like Serena and Pietro. Then, a call came in and I turned down the volume and ended up in my office car park. I realized that I didn’t even remember which channel I was listening to. -_-

Well anyways, what to do. The weight is always on the girl’s end and they would be the yes or no in all relationships. All you guys have to do is do your best. Remember, best efforts may not win at all. You may buy her million roses or you may look like a model, some girls will just say no. The problem? Not even one. Sulk it up, because that’s the way it is. The earlier you realize this fact, the more you will not get hurt bad. Hahaha…

There are a lot more talks on radio I wanna write up here but my memory has been very bad. Sigh, I need to re-tune my memory space… It’s not getting any better or larger…

They all want my ang pow next Chinese New Year lah… -_-

I thought I’m the one who is suppose to be more eager!! -_-

Classic example. This particular friend of mine will never stop speculating. Let’s call her Jamie. Err.. that’s her name anyways…

We go way back many many many many years… So yeah..

Early this month, I was chatting with her and it’s getting late so I said my goodbye. Then, long lost friend called out of a sudden. The goodbye was then prolonged.

If I was talking to a guy, meaning I pak tor with him? -_-

Then hor, she pulak go and itchy itchy speculate that I’ve got some new story to tell. That’s when I wrote on Facebook to thank “The Girl” for the long weekend.

Tak puas hati dia, she still wants to dig out about The Girl. Hahaha…
Twice she speculated the same wrong person…

See lah! The Girl, you are so the famous now!

Tak habis habis, my cousin pulak come and mengada…
Want to vet to see if the girl she thought I’m seeing is a GF material. -_-

Now, I have one more person to add to my GF vet list. First, it’s my friend’s mom. Then, my client. Now… my cousin?? Sei lah… Have to go through test summore. Dahlah enough test playing catching…

If it happens, they all better pass her with flying colours I tell you…!!!

Either ways… why let someone judge who you can live your life with?

I had two encounters last a moment ago.
But, let me just share with you on one first.

It was a chat with Ring without the O.  -_-

10:17 PM me: i asked my friend

he say Cosmos Hotel

10:19 PM Ring: okay

10:21 PM me: very.. centrally located

Ring: rate>

10:24 PM me: 105USD

10:25 PM Ring: got any love hotel?

love hotel a lot cheaper

me: wtf!

what is love hotel?

hahaha

10:26 PM Ring: lol

basically

its for people to

argh nevermind.

me: hahahah

ok ok

i got it..

Ring: lol

me: i tot it’s a name of the hotel

hahaha

10:27 PM i don’t know any wei… hahah

let’s see what google tells us

http://www.google.com.my/search?hl=en&q=taipei+love+hotels&btnG=Search&meta=

hahah

The funny thing about the conversation is just how she gave up explaining the meaning of “Love Hotel”.

10:26 PM Ring: lol

basically

its for people to

argh nevermind.

The “argh nevermind.” hahahaha….

Never have I came to know that, the commonly known “kai tau” in Canton is also known as “Love Hotel” in English. Learn more about Love Hotel.

A love hotel (ラブホテル ,rabu hoteru^?) is a type of short-stay hotel found in Japan operated primarily for the purpose of allowing couples privacy to have sexual intercourse. Similar establishments also exist in other East Asian countries and regions such as South Korea^[1], Taiwan and Hong Kong. The same concept also exists in Central America, particularly in Guatemala and Mexico, where they are called “autohotels”.^[2]

Japan. Hmm… Now I know where she got the term from.

Pardon my innocence but it is just that, it didn’t hit me instantly what Love Hotel means. I wonder what will the reception would ask if any couple checks in? Maybe this scenario will happen…

Door bell rings and a couple walks in.

“Hi, you both wants to get jiggy?” Ask the reception.

The couple nods while giggling to themselves. She is holding his arm scared he will run away.

The receptionist then ask, “How long?”

The couple then points to the chart on the table. They chose the “Timeless” package, took their room key and walk upstairs.

There you go, the story of a Love Hotel. hahaha

Oh wells, the kind of place some travelers will stay just to save some money. Not to say I’m any different also as I practically stayed in a “Love Hotel” too, while I was in Perth.

“Dear part time bf, sorry ya, me busy lately, will keep u update on lunch plane (no error here, she wrote that!). Remember i always miss u. U know y always msg u when u not in kl? (You didn’t msg. You called! ) Coz distance makes the heart fonder mar. Haha, Lam or not? “

[Canton] Lam Dou Pei ah…!!!

Hahahahaha

I sure hope she deletes that message of her sent box or else her BF find out…

Or else…

The next time you see me in the front page of the news, you will know that I survived her BF’s torture. Muahahahaha  -_”

How I became a part time BF? Say, it’s a training programme. For the better of the two of us.

Don’t you know sharing is caring? But I guess she has the most sharing than I do. Maybe I have my fair bit of sharing as well, but it has been a while, BECAUSE SHE ALWAYS REJECTS MY LUNCH REQUEST!!! Grrr… Okay. She is busy. I understand. I totally understand that, when a woman is busy with her work or anything she does, you DO NOT interfere. Not until they pause from what they are so busy about and reach for you.

Else, you will sure kena hamtam kao kao mati khong kha khiao…

But, back to the message…

I sure wish and hope that distance makes the heart fonder…

Distance has a lot of meaning in it. Just how you view distance as a length of time or just distance.

But oh wells. Hope is what makes your life goes on. Eh?